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Ryszard

Discovering how to get what I want, sharing only the advice I'm using. Alcoholic & nihilist turned into Team Leader, Software Developer & Writer.

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Conquer Fear Of Failure

Welcome Reader ❤️ after a break. I'm writing to you from Bali. A place I thought was Paradise Island. But it just happened to be another poor, European-style tourist spot. And I already had a scooter accident. So, I took my time getting back to writing. The piece below is about my deepest fear, the fear of failure, and my biggest mistake when dealing with it. Let me know what you think, and enjoy the journey. Oh, and if you prefer reading it online, click here. Remarkably Simple Way To...

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Hello Reader ❤️, How I Compare Myself to Get What I Want And Feel Envigorated Compare consciously to maximize the benefits Photo by Karolina Grabowska Can you run away from comparing yourself to others? No. But there are two ways to use comparison. The first is to check what’s there in the world. The second is self-pity and anger. I went for the second option most of the time. Five years ago, I couldn’t understand why someone earned more than I did for doing the same thing. That was my only...

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You can have the life you want, but you must reflect on what that means for you Mistakes are inevitable, but denying them and wasting your life is not. But that's what you do when you never self-reflect. Imagine this: You see someone who doesn't wash their hands after going to the bathroom. They might not be dumb, but they're not thinking about what they're doing. Don't be like them. Stop increasing your chances of having a shitty life. Take a moment to think about your actions. Analyse if...

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Hello Reader ❤️, Today, I share with you my battle with to-do lists. Not displaying properly? You can read it on my webpage. How I Make My To-Do List Calming After Years of Increased Anxiety Stop being a slave to your to-do list Do you know the feeling when you see your plan and know you won’t make it?I do.Every morning, I would open my notebook with tasks and goals. A never-ending list of chores, deadlines, and responsibilities. I struggled to get things done. I had big dreams, but they...

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Hello Reader ❤️, let's catch our lives together! I was off for some time. I hope you're rested and ready to continue the journey to fulfill your dreams! What awaits you today? How I got additional working hours for my brain Accepting the realm of delayed gratification The best material I read about how to write from Ayodeji Awosika Journaling course free for you, forever A Guaranteed Way to Get One Free Hour a Day to Build Your Dream Life I hated waking up early until I've experienced this...

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How to deal with pressure to conform and Become Unfuckwithable You want to use society to get what your meat suit needs and stay yourself to be useful My life sucked because I was a basic bitch. I wanted what society wanted: Big house, new car, a lot of sex, and only fun. I've never considered what I wanted. Do the same, and you'll feel lifeless. You won't stick to any long-term commitment simply because you won't care enough. Your life will be a constant disappointment for you. Every dream...

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Hello Reader ❤️, The 4 Important Lessons From 3 Years to Make You Happier #3 The only thing that matters is how you feel Sobriety is a strict teacher. I had to learn the hard way how to earn my respect. There were no shortcuts and a lot of failures. But there were also wins. Something I experienced once a year and now I experience daily. The conclusion is it's better to have a harsh teacher than none. And before sobriety, I didn't have a teacher. Nothing served me as a catalyst for growth....

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Hello Reader ❤️, You can feel doubt and still do your shit. I almost dropped this newsletter. There is almost no traction. I don't know what I am doing. Do I really give you value, or do I lie to myself? Someday I'd love to live from writing. But never at your expense. I aim to exchange the goods, not take away anything from you. But I struggle with what to write. What's in that for you? How can you benefit from my experience? In the end who am I to send you these emails about improving life?...

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Hello Reader ❤️, The Smart Mind Shift to Help You Overcome Fear of Not Doing Enough There is no escaping this moment, so why not embrace it? Do you feel like you're constantly chasing after the next goal or milestone, but never truly enjoying the present moment? You're not alone. Many people feel like time is slipping away. We dance back and forth, from the past to the future, always jumping over the present. Too much focus on the future results in acute stress. Too much focus on the past,...

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Hello Reader ❤️, The Hidden Secret How to Use Your Brain to Solve Your Problems Photo by Matt Walsh on Unsplash Stupid questions are the ones that lead you to hate yourself. I was a fuckup. My actions were giving unexpected results. I repeated the same mistakes over and over again. Instead of reflecting on myself, I preferred drinking and binging Netflix. Why? Because I had no idea how to use my brain. I leveled up when I got a basic understanding of how to get something out of my brain. My...